很老很老的邮件
Oct 13th, 2014 by Hao

心血来潮,倒腾邮箱,突然翻出了8年以前老师给我的一封邮件,其中有一句话,很普通,但很真切。因为深有感触,所以放在这里,常常看看。

2006年12月21日 22:13 (星期四)
…人生就是不断去做自己看起来不容易做成的事,这样才有挑战性…

人生很短,什么是快乐,什么是幸福?
Jul 1st, 2014 by Hao

也许这个问题真的没有答案。

上午和一个同事单独讨论问题,在细数目前我们领域的researcher和他们的研究方向的时候,同事列出了一位在几周前离世的年轻的老师。我告诉他说:Mike passed away a few weeks ago。他愣住了,我又说了一遍,他说:He died?好一阵子他终于回过神来。谁能相信一个刚刚30出头,在Top 10的学校里拿到Tenure的老师,说不在就不在了。

我与Mike有过一个合作的DARPA的项目,给我的印象,他是一个很有热情的人,对自己的东西满腹自信,对问题有着特别的看法,当然,也并不见得所有人都能赞同,不过这并无所谓,在很多问题上面,大家的共识是: we agree to disagree。给我的印象,他很快乐,每次开会见面,总是乐呵呵的。

当这么个乐呵呵的人永远的留在自己的记忆中的时候,不由得想,到底什么是快乐,什么是幸福,这一生,其实不长,需要活得快乐,需要幸福。

能够收获是幸福。也许这是最基本的一点,大家都能够想到。当然,能够通过自己的劳动,努力获得自己想要的东西,这当然是幸福:比如权利。

能够付出是幸福。请注意我说的是“能够付出”,并不是说自己就剩得一碗米饭的时候还得分别人半碗。很多人认为付出或多或少是一种负担,我觉得不然。幸福只是一种状态,我相信人发自心底的是乐于奉献的,收获再多的权利,如果没有能够用出去,有什么意义?周末的时候,我很经常去一个给无家可归的人分发午餐的志愿者活动,每次去都有很多人,大家各自不约而同的带些食物或者衣服,然后分发给排队来领的人们。我觉得能够让那些没有家的人们因为自己有这么一顿午饭是一种幸福。

能够分享是幸福。分享的确是一种幸福,即便是分享碌碌无为的一天的各种琐事,如果能够有这么一个人和自己分享,这当然是一种幸福,这很难得。

能够结伴是幸福。有的人能够结伴一次旅程,有的人能够结伴这一生,这都是幸福。想想这一辈子有多少次旅行, 有多少次一生?很少。珍重!

能够牵挂是幸福。

Life sparkles when friends meet again
Jun 3rd, 2014 by Hao

And it really does!

We are all different. Yet it is the mutual experience that bounded us together. Without seeing each other for seven years, we still had a lot to talk about. That is absolutely amazing. Even for some of us, who I met for the first time in person, we still had a lot to chat about.

In all honesty, Life is short! It is great to have friends like this and it is a blessing to keep having them.

All the best!

Some words about this journey
Feb 14th, 2013 by Hao

Life is a journey, not a destination. It is a long, long journey, so long that you could not even know what is in the distance. It is because that you cannot have a clear look beyond the corner of the road in front, you keep a hope, a sincere hope, a hope that is deep in your heart. It is because of this hope that you hold on tight to your faith. You keep walking when blisters are popping up from under your feet. You get back on your feet when you fall into the thorn bushes. You fight against the rapids when you are turned over in a turbulent river. In the meantime, you are also blessed to have the loyal Big Dipper guide you towards the right direction, to have the sweet dew quench your thirst, and to have beautiful rainbows decorate the sky along your quest. Finally, at some point, you are happy to discover that you have arrived at a place, a place where you turn back and find out that all you have gone through has turned into a magnificent view – a living jungle stretching towards the horizon with a jade-green river winding through. You smile into the distance and you find your world celebrating with you under the sun.

You should spend a night there: watch the sunset, enjoy the dark blue sky in the night, have a sweet dream, and embrace the sunrise which starts the next day. Where to go? – You do not know. The jungle in front is filled with uncertainties. But you feel you do see something in the distance through the mist of the dawn. That may be the excitements. Where are you from? – It is right there. The jungle behind you has shaped you into who you are. So take some time, take a break, seize this moment, do not let it pass. There come the memories, the experience, the wisdom, and the smiles. Collect them and carry on.

Done
Feb 13th, 2013 by Hao

It is weird. You spent several years working for this moment and now you want to complain about how fast this moment elapses. Is that contradictory?

Hmmm… Human beings are truly sophisticated. BUT, I passed my defense!

Live a simple life, because life is here to enjoy.

Things that will happen in the next five months
Jan 25th, 2013 by Hao

After a month’s stay at home, I am now back at school again. The flight back was interesting. I took a weird route from Shanghai to Moscow and to New York City. I thought it would be fun when I decided to purchase the ticket for this route. And it turned out to be so, except that it took me about 23 hours flying which is almost like an entire day.

Being at home is definitely a wonderful thing: being with the families as well as reconnecting with old buddies. I now do realize that real good friends do not really need too much time to get back to the old feelings. We sense the sincerity as well as friendliness the moment we see each other face to face. That’s a wonderful thing of life and having such friends is truly a blessing. I felt fortunate to have those friends come into my life and be part of it.

New York is now freezing, around 20 degrees outside (thank God I have decided not to go to school today as it is the last day of the week and everything has started smoothly). This cold NYC feels almost insane to me. I cannot even feel my ears walking on the street without anything covering them. In the past 5 years, I never felt so cold. I was talking to Jiongxin the other day and interestingly we ended up in a conversation where we were trying to figure out how those homeless people could survive this severe weather. Obviously, it is going to be an extreme challenge. I do believe the government and we people as an entire society should pay special attention to them as we should treat each life equally. But unfortunately it is not the case really.

Now come to the real topic. In the following five months, many big things will happen in my life: I will defend my thesis in three weeks; I will find a job as a fresh start for my future; I will have my families come to my graduation ceremony and travel in the US with them. I feel excited for these things to happen! And this brings something Professor Zhou told us which was revised from an old saying: Long as the road is, no steps no arrivals; Difficult as the task is, no pains no gains. It is true, isn’t it?

Anyway, I do wish everyone who read this post and those who do not have a wonderful 2013. Also, do not forget to bring a healthy body and a healthy soul on your journey to every happy moment of your life!

Be optimistic and be strong.

Bye 2012 and Hello 2013
Dec 31st, 2012 by Hao

Time flies. It is the last day of 2012. I am so happy that I am at home being with my families. I feel so grateful for all I have and I look forward to the upcoming 2013 very much!

Wish every friend a wonderful new year. May our dreams come true!

IROS 2012
Oct 13th, 2012 by Hao

I did not plan to come to IROS this year at the very beginning. However, from the day that we decided to apply for a travel grant, to the day that we got it, to the day I left NYC for Lisbon, to now, I have always been believing that it turned out to be the best conference trip for me so far!

Life really is a Weierstrass function!

I met wonderful people. We share common interest of research. We enjoyed dinner together, hang out together, and had a lot of fun! I wish life could be always like this!

I am now in Lisbon, alone, and have just finished the postcards, which are finally ready to be sent to the US. I will spend one day in Lisbon tomorrow and I shall see how it goes.

Thanks! Thanks for all the givings!

Something also true
Oct 21st, 2011 by Hao

Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.

– Dalai Lama

Something true
Oct 8th, 2011 by Hao

‎”No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

- Steve Jobs

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